Mother’s Day Facebook Scrolling
The day after Mother’s Day, I sat for a few minutes scrolling through FaceBook. My sister had posted a beautiful picture of her family that I wanted to see. Then as I scrolled, I found that most of my feed, outside of the myriad of advertisements, was other friends and acquaintances posting their photos from Mother’s Day. My page was as blank as ever. Not only did it not even cross my mind to post something, but I hadn’t taken a single photo of my kids on Mother’s Day, nor do I have anything that resembles a recent photo of them with me! I was laughing with my mom yesterday because I have very few pictures from this year to date. I enjoyed looking at everyone’s photos, but the thought entered my mind that there must be something wrong with us that I didn’t have anything from yesterday to post.
Don’t Let the Enemy Use Mother’s Day for Dissatisfaction
I am thankful I do not allow those thoughts to take root in my heart. The enemy wants nothing more than to plant seeds of dissatisfaction, doubt, and even despair in our hearts. For many people, those feelings come creeping in around Mother’s Day. Hurts from the past, pain from the loss of a mom, the emptiness of not being a mother when it is so greatly desired, or even the anguish of losing a child far too early. So many seeds that, if allowed, sprout up into bitterness and regret and allow Mother’s Day to be a day to be avoided while everyone else posts fabulous photos of a day spent together.
For others, the young moms out there, Mother’s Day is a day you have longed for, and now that it’s here, you find it to be a day much like every other. Full of the unending job of mothering! While the most fulfilling thing you will ever do, it is a thankless job with endless demands that sap your strength and often leave you wanting to bury your head.
Mother’s Day in Reality of Family Life
I very clearly remember one Mother’s Day when Steve was going through an extended health issue that made life complicated, and our kids were little. They were probably 2, 3, and 4 at the time. My mom called and asked me what special dinner we were going to have that day to celebrate Mother’s Day. It had been an exhausting day (take note of ages 2, 3, and 4), and making a special meal meant that I had to cook that meal and then clean up after that meal. That did not sound remotely special or like anyone was celebrating my motherhood. A nice restaurant with three squirrelly children and Steve’s health issue also sounded near catastrophic, and we didn’t have the money to pay for it anyway.
If memory serves me, we had leftovers, and the dishes sat until the following day, so I didn’t have to clean up anything. My kids are considerably older now, but most Mother’s Days have continued to be filled with busyness and getting things done, traveling to and from, or trying to squeeze in a few minutes with my own mom.
A New Mother’s Day Tradition at the Hublers
Steve and I have gotten smart over the years. Our new tradition is to let Mother’s Day be what the day will be. A day of a mom serving her kids, taking care of the needs of the weekend, getting things ready for school the next day, etc. (Last year, we were painting our new house. This year, we were out of town because of ministry meetings, but managed to have a take-out lunch with my sister and eight teenagers.) But then, we have a date night later in the week to celebrate Mother’s Day. A night out where we can take a breather together from all the chaotic demands of parenting.
Biblical Encouragement for Mom’s on Mother’s Day
No matter where you find yourself as we move past Mother’s Day, the exhausted younger mother, the one whose arms are empty, the one who has buried a very dear mother, or the one who gathered family and celebrated the day with a full heart, scripture has something to say to us from the hearts of other mothers. In 1 Samuel 1, we find Hannah, childless, pouring her heart out to God in anguish and sorrow. And when God answered her prayer, she fulfilled her vow to the Lord by leaving this child that she’d longed for more than anything else to serve in the temple. 1 Samuel 1 ends, giving us a glimpse of where our mothers’ hearts need to be focused. “And they worshiped the LORD there.” (1 Samuel 1:28) Hannah had a heart of worship!
And then we see Mary, the mother of Jesus. As a young woman, Mary had become pregnant even though she was a virgin. An angel had visited her and told her that her child was the Messiah. She gave birth in a stable away from the care of her own mother, and her visitors are shepherds who tell an amazing story about a choir of angels announcing her baby’s birth. Mary’s response in Luke 2:19 is also worth noting. “But Mary kept all these things in her heart and thought about them often.” Often. She pondered what she had experienced, and this child she knew would be the long-awaited Messiah. Mary didn’t allow the day-to-day happenings to steal away the gift that God had given her. She pondered them often and treasured them.
A Closing Thought about Mother’s Day
So, as we are past Mother’s Day, my encouragement to you, no matter who you are or what you carry with you into this week, is to spend time worshiping the Lord and to often think about the good gifts that God has given you – your mother, your children. The memories that make you cry and the ones that make you laugh. Those memories are a gift from God. Ponder them. And worship the giver of good gifts, the lover of your soul, the one who made you and knit you together in your mother’s womb, the one who knows all of your days, all your mother’s days, all your child’s days. Worship Him today!